Support Tips for Partners

Keep the birth environment as undisturbed, quiet and relaxed as possible. There are many ways you can faciliate this for the labouring woman - ensure noisy appliances are off, keep the coming and going to a bare minimum, assign tasks for children to help with in support, or keep them occupied, keep conversation to a minimum and do not engage the labouring woman in too many questions.

Verbal whispered support can be effective for some women. Others may simply want silence. Here are some suggestions;

  • Our baby is coming
  • You're so strong, amazing and powerful! Keep doing what you're doing, you're doing it so well!
  • Trust yourself. I trust you.
  • There are other women labouring alongside you right this very moment. You're not alone, we're all here with you.
  • Let go of the tension in your body.
  • Relax where you can.
  • You can do this, you are doing this.
  • Do what feels good to you.

If the woman is starting to say she is too tired, or can't do this anymore, it may be helpful to suggest a change. If she is walking around, suggest she take a break in the shower. If she's in a warm bathtub and getting tired, suggest a cool break on the mattress. It is possible for labouring women to find a rest or a break of sorts during labour. Most of the time she will be able to continue on without drugs or medical intervention if she is supported to find a way to get this break. It is important she is not distracted or disturbed once she is comfortable and resting.

Keep offering drinks, ice chips, cold wash cloths and fruit bits. Do not ask, just offer with it in your hand and don't be offended if the woman rejects with short retorts. She is not trying to be rude, she is just trying to conserve energy and avoid distraction. Also, straws are very handy for labouring women, making it easier for them to drink.

Stay fluid, so that you can be flexible to the flow of labour. Labouring women need the freedom to change position and move as their bodies and feelings encourage them to. This helps faciliate the baby's birth. If she is on hands and knees, you can try hot towels on her back and belly. If she is standing up, you can slowly dance with her, hands on her hips. If she is leaning against something, you can apply slight pressure to her hips or rest your hand on her lower back. The important thing is to be open and receptive to her, and not to get upset if she is short with you when she doesn't like something

Don't forget about yourself! To support someone else, you need to make sure your own needs are being met. This included eating and drinking at regular intervals to keep your energy levels up. If it is early labour and she is happy doing her own thing, don't do anything extra - grap a nap if you can. Avoid short burst energy sources like caffeine, sugar, soda drinks. A long lasting source of energy is the herbal powder "Ripley's" which contains gurana, kola nut, siberian ginseng, and suma. Take it with honey.




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